The usual path, even for non-traditional students like I am at this point, is to pick a college, apply, enroll, and take classes until you graduate. Very few colleges or universities can accommodate a schedule for a person with a family and a full time job. I probably could make that work, but it would take forever, and cost a lot.
As I learned in my last go-round, an assigned time in a class room given my current responsibilities isn’t my best path. Ideally, I am looking for a way to complete my degree that is self-paced; I can engage with the materials as I have time, rather than on a rigid schedule.
Luckily, at some point in the last few years I stumbled across the Degree Forum. It is a community of people who like to help each other figure out how to get degrees with the most efficient use of time and money.
The short version is that a handful of fully accredited schools accept a huge amount of transfer or exam credit. You can fulfill most of your degree through relatively inexpensive and diverse sources of credit, transfer in, take just a few classes, and graduate.
So that is my plan. I am going to take classes from various online providers, accumulate credits, and apply to one of these schools. This should let me do things on my own time (for the most part), and let me flex up or down my time spent on schooling as other commitments demand.
I’ll have written up a degree plan that should net me a Computer Science degree from Thomas Edison State University. I’ll keep that updated as I work through things.